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  1. anonlurkermom
    anonlurkermom August 18, 2009 at 10:44 am | | Reply

    I think about this often. Clearly my daughter’s diagnosis has made my other three children more empathetic. They bicker like most siblings but a diabetes issue has them all stepping up. I do worry, though, because of the required lag time between sassiness and discipline to allow for testing. I am looking for someone to needlepoint a pillow “You BETTER be low!” The siblings don’t get that lag and notice it. Intellectually they understand but still feel like she gets special treatment or they are judged more harshly.

  2. Sarah
    Sarah August 18, 2009 at 11:00 am | | Reply

    I definitely had the same experience but in the context of a sibling with a cognitive disability (D0wn syndrome). It has taken me a loooong time to get over a lot of the resentment, and it shaped me possibly more than any other factor as I was growing up. My parents never explained a lot of what was going on and it’s only now that I’m an adult (theoretically, at least) that I’ve gotten the full scoop of what his disability means.

  3. Courtney
    Courtney September 20, 2009 at 1:47 pm | | Reply

    I grew up with my older sister having diabetes. She was six years older than me and was 10 when she was diagnosed. My mom gave her a kidney at 14. I felt ignored most of my life as my parents were consumed with her illness. I don’t blame them because I realize that they did the best they could with what they knew at the time. But, I did harbor a lot of resentment most of my life. I am an adult now. It took my sister’s death at 28 for me to realize how sick she really was. My parents kept me protected from it a lot of times.
    I do agree that thinking of your other kids from the offset and making a concerted effort to spend time with them (MOM and DAD) that it can prevent emotional problems down the road.

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