Time for another edition of the Diabetic Partner Follies, where the significant others of the PWDs (people with diabetes) are invited to share their experiences — for community building and a bit of strategizing, perhaps.
I say “strategizing” because today’s entry comes from a partner who’s very concerned. She’d like to hear how others manage. Take a read and please feel free to add your 2 cents in the comments section below this post.
[Keep in mind also that original submissions to the Follies are always welcome. Just email me your stuff HERE.]
I just came across your blog today and I LOVE it! I’ve been the partner of a “brittle” (fragile?) Type I diabetic for about three months now and have learned an awful lot in a very short time. We’ve learned to manage things together pretty well, and there really haven’t been any serious emergencies that I couldn’t handle (knock on wood), though she does sometimes drop very low very quickly.
I’ve become very attuned to her blood sugar, to the point where I can actually anticipate lows way before she does (in part because she sometimes experiences hypoglycemic unawareness, but also just because we spend so much time together).
However, the problem is that we don’t live together and, being only 3 months into a relationship, are making an effort to still spend the occasional night apart. This causes me an unbelievable amount of worry. Logically, I know it’s probably okay. She wakes up automatically when she’s low at night and manages things herself, and she lived alone for a couple years before I showed up and did just fine.
However, this does little to reassure me when I’m lying in bed alone at night in my apartment, scared to death that she might not be OK, and trying my best to resist the urge pick up my phone and check on her… Some weeks are worse, blood-sugar wise than others, and when she’s had a lot of lows I have a really hard time not insisting that I stay over.
I wondered if you or anyone might have some ideas as to how I might learn to calm my anxieties, either by suggesting work that I can do to relax, and/or strategies for her in emergencies. She keeps juice by her bed and in the bathroom, and as far as I know always sleeps next to her phone. Even as I write this, I think, “then why are you so worried?!” but I am, and I’m hoping other partners can sympathize…
Thanks in advance.
Dear AC, I’m betting lots of other can sympathize indeed. Guys??