Comments on: The Diabetic Dating Thing

By: bonita

bonita — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 19:01:30 +0000

Reading some of the comments concerning T1s gettin gmarried, I find this wrong. I am a T1 almost 35 yrs now and my husband was a T2, we have one child together and the only thing wrong with him is a high IQ. At 18 heis running his own business. My husband passed away several years ago, but not from compilcaions of diabetis. Myself I am healthy and age 55 just starting to have some minor problems with my diabetis.

I have just started dating again recently and the man I am with now is awesome.

By: Mille

Mille — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 13:59:10 +0000

I just happen to read this blog and found it very helpful. I am not diabetic but a guy i have started seeing is a type 1 diabetic.

When he first told me about it, i was more concerned about what i can do to help him or what i have to know to be prepared if anything happend. I too was not exposed to diabetes and wanted mostly to understand what it is and what is expected of me. I appreciated that he was honest when he got to know me more and it was not a big deal because he took care of himself well and explained it. I think if you are able to present it like -yeah it’s a part of my life, but it’s not hindering me from living -then it helps partners like me understand that it can be dealt with.

WHEN HE TOLD ME, I NEVER ONCE FELT LIKE IT WAS A BURDEN OR SOME SORT OF DEAL BREAKER. I thought it more like allergies ( i know it’s not but this is how i thought at first) – we just have to be careful in most situations but it’s ok. I liked him enough to educate myself about it and not let it bother me. for me i just wanted to be there for my partner because i was more attracted to his other qualities. Some people have their preferrences but don’t assume your partner would immediately back off. – i didnt.

By: Morgan

Morgan — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 23:48:35 +0000

ahem. four months. sorry. he might get offended if he catches that mistake. haha.

By: Morgan

Morgan — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 23:41:24 +0000

It has certainly been educational and interesting reading all of the responses to this. I came across this page while researching statistics and phycological affects of procreating (sounds so detached.. sorry, couldn’t figure out a better word) with someone with t1. I have been with my boyfriend for a few months and, as most typical women my age, my dream is to get married and have a family of my own. Before we started dating, I admit, I knew absolutely nothing about D. But after doing my own research, in addition to everything that I have learned from him, I realize that there is a fairly high potential risk for our children if that is what we decide. I, personally am not a fan of casual dating, and I don’t want to drag something out that inevitably would end, so that is why I’m trying to make a descision now, instead of “waiting things out” which would possibly lead to worse heartbreak.
–My concern for my boyfriend’s future is obviously something that I worry about, but is most definitely NOT something that would prevent me from dating and later spending the rest of my life with him.–
However the worry of spreading the disease by having his children and the worry of my kids living with D is something to make me think twice. Would I be ok with adopting instead? Would he?
I think that these questions are very personal.. different for every person. I know some girl-friends that would have no problem not having their own kids, and some that would never consider dating a person with D for that reason.
What about me? At this point, I guess I’m still not sure. Any advice on this topic in particular would be valued SO much. (:

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By: Damien

Damien — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 02:58:22 +0000

I recently broke up with my T1 fiance of 5 years. Her diabetes was never an issue, but what she did with it was an issue. She always had a reluctance to exercise and make excuses whilst she put on weight and let herself go. Then it extended into the bedroom and afected all sorts of things plus making me constantly worry about her and our future. We were so close, but I couldn’t help losing respect for her because of her laziness which led me to think why should I be with her, and how can she expect me to be there with her later on in life when things might get tough (she already had all of her teeth removed, retinopathy, patially blind, 2 cateracts, gastroparesis (where stomach is paralized), depression, loss of libido to name a few complicaions so far). If she can’t try and exercise, then why should I be around later on?
I have been slowly re-habilitating her as she was unble to even get out of bed at one stage due to migrains due to fluctuating blood suger. Now she is able to go to work, and I really wanted he to have more of on interest in being more healthy.

I have reaised this is just how she is and why I had to let her go. Am I shallow and unfair?

I have always been there for her and we are both having a tough time dealing with the break up. I am forcing myself to not allow myself to go back even though I love her.

But it was never the diabetes that was the problem.

By: Richard

Richard — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 08:29:54 +0000

Interesting reading… well I have been with a type 1 diabetic woman, who is an amazing person who I love. Being someone who didn’t do much research (beyond looking at some definitions) but its one thing to read what low sugar levels may bring and a different one to experience a girlfriend having one… but sooner or later I found out. Well years later we have a baby together and while its not the easiest thing to go through when things get complicated… its not impossible (for us at least) to deal with.

I will say, many people (esp. the more immature 20s crowd ‘both men and women’) may not handle the tougher moments as easily, but if there is love their is a will. Good luck with the dating esp. finding people with patience and a good attitude.

By: Valerie

Valerie — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 09:59:45 +0000

I would be interested in a dating site for diabetics. They have some for sexually transmitted diseases, why not have our own. At least you would have a chance to meet someone that could have an understanding of the disease. It would just be another level on which to bond.

By: Ben

Ben — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 17:21:00 +0000

ok i can agree with a lot of theses comments iam a T1 2000 sent back in time to stop the spread of this terrible disease…. iam jking but yeah theres alota performance anxiety tied up with being a male diabetic and i suppose that adds to it but when all else fails we have other parts that wont. ponder if you must.

By: angel

angel — Sun, 27 Apr 2008 21:39:52 +0000

You should always control your diabetes, but do not let your diabetes control your life.

I know I am a wonderful person and being diabetic has not changed who I am.

I have been single for 5 years now. I have dated and have found most guys are ok with the diabetes because I am ok with it.

I am 37 years old and the way I see it we all have the same chances with problems developing as we get older diabetic or not. I take better care of myself than most of the guys I have dated. The chance of my complications are the same as them developing type 2, heart disease or cancer.

Reality is, no one knows what is down the road for them. The only thing in life that is guaranteed is change and anyones health can change at any time! If someone doesnt want to date you because you are diabetic I hope they get hitched before reality hits and they are no longer “perfect.”