Hello All, and Welcome Back to the Diabetic Partner Follies, our sharing forum for partners of PWDs. Sometimes both partners have diabetes, and things get particularly hairy — especially when one partner is guilty of D-neglect. You think that’s only bad news for the affected individual? Think again:
Can I fire my diabetic husband for losing his spiffy new blood glucose meter?
This is the man who said to me, “I’d test more often if I had the meter that you have, that keeps track of all those numbers.”
Fine. I bought him the meter. More testing is good for a person with type 2 diabetes, right? At least I didn’t give it to him as a birthday or valentine’s day gift.
Personally, I have two meters. One lives at home in my bathroom. The second lives in my office desk drawer. (I should probably get a third to live in my car.)
And it’s not as if I ask him every day how his numbers are. I ask once in a while. His HbA1c was most recently 8.8, and his doctor commented that this reading was down from earlier ones.
When I asked how his numbers were about a month ago, he sheepishly admitted that he couldn’t find his meter. I asked a week or so ago, and he still had not located it.
What kind of health crisis will it take to get his attention? I want to grab him by both ears and shake him. I am so angry at him. I am so afraid of what is happening within his body right now. I have enough to do with managing my own life, and my own diabetes. I cannot manage his.
But how cruel of him to inflict this worry and anger on me by his inaction and carelessness. Can I forgive? Can I continue? Can I?
— Anonymous on the West Coast, USA
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