Comments on: The Diabetic Partner Follies, Act 9: Support Group Faux Pas

By: Journeywoman

Journeywoman — Fri, 08 Dec 2006 19:21:02 +0000

I don’t know how the husband expressed his views…if he got up and screamed. I think if I had been there (this is assuming it is in NJ or NY) I would say that driving while low would result in a DUI, which could result in suspension of licence and possibly jail time (if someone was killed).

This is an amazing blog and an amazing series…sorry I’m coming late to the party.

By: JasonJayhawk

JasonJayhawk — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 02:57:28 +0000

I agree with Gina’s comments. As a Type 1, even I would have had a hard time in a group of people who talk about their mistakes that could injure others or themselves. In the same light, I never like to associate with groups of people discussing exploits and adventures with alcohol or drugs, either.

By: AmyT

AmyT — Sat, 18 Nov 2006 00:26:02 +0000

Well said, Michael!!

By: Michael Park

Michael Park — Fri, 17 Nov 2006 22:55:35 +0000

I think it’s a fine line between a) being supportive of someone who makes mistakes and b)supporting someone’s mistakes.
It’s so easy to get into a group of dibetics and start admitting to the bad habits or wrongdoings, and it’s great to acknowledge that we are all human and make mistakes BUT we should just as quickly acknowledge the fact that they are mistakes for a reason…

By: gina

gina — Fri, 17 Nov 2006 19:22:01 +0000

I think that the husband was right to express his opinion and people that have diabetes should really think not only about their own life but the people’s lives that can also be affected, because of their irresponsible actions. So, i feel when it comes to that all rules are off.

What does it take two seconds to double check if you have your supplies or not or take a blood test before you get in a car come on… even when i am in the shittiest of moods i will always check my blood before i get in the car. its a priority.

By: Scott

Scott — Fri, 17 Nov 2006 18:47:32 +0000

Having met Kelly, its interesting to read about her husband’s perception!

By: Anne

Anne — Fri, 17 Nov 2006 15:51:53 +0000

John, I would have felt the same way as you and I’ve been type 1 for 18 years. It seems like the facilitator could have handled your comments (which I would totally agree with) in a different way in order to increase understanding on both sides. I’m sorry you felt uncomfortable and hope you aren’t disuaded too much from joining your wife in the future. When it comes to health-related issues, and diabetes in particular, it is a big motivator to know that others are counting on me to be responsible.

By: Vivian

Vivian — Fri, 17 Nov 2006 15:47:50 +0000

Bless his heart, he had good intentions. If they aren’t there to judge, then they should give him a second chance. Maybe he could lead a session on how the partners or families feel. I think everyone needs to know how they fit into the puzzle of life. Just my 2cents.